Narcissism (An Artist's Greatest Problem?)

The other day I had an interesting conversation with a close friend of mine.  I had given this person a networking lead in the music industry and over the phone he asked, "are you sure you feel comfortable sharing this connection with me? I know sometimes people get upset when other artists try to do what their doing." He was so used to having music artists in town try to keep their support team and methods a secret that he actually felt the need to ask if it was okay.  I was somewhat surprised by it but then realized that sadly, it's definitely part of the industry.

While I think that networking and social mingling is the norm among musicians, there are natural tendencies to be competitive and elitist.  The mindset is often so narcissistic that at shows in the past, I've seen bands on the same bill not even willing to look at each other because they were focused on THEIR show, THEIR music, THEIR fans.  They felt they were the best of the night and had no reason to mingle with the other bands.

I'll be the first to admit I've had moments where that attitude was taking place in me.  At times I've been so indulged in my songwriting and personal goals that I would shut out everything and anyone not in my circle.  I remember reading a book regarding music promotion and it talked about relentlessly sharing about your music, being bold and aggressive, and in many ways, running over people to get what you want.  The mentality was, "do what you need to get what you want."  But I just don't think that's necessary for success.  You can be a hard working artist without being selfish.

To be sure, I have some AMAZING relationships with other artists and I've been so blessed by people who were willing to help me out with advice, connections, and encouragement. Trust me, I need help from every direction! But seriously, why are we so afraid to help each other out?